Money,money,money, is not so FUNNY!

* Pic Courtsey Google

It takes a lot to be firm and say to yourself that you will lead a life that is free from the bonds of MONEY.If you listened to my mother and taken her advice,you would be a millionaire by now i.e,if you started saving by 23 and now 30 year old millionaire would have been me.As always i did not take her advice and clearly in no position to advice on MONEY matter.However,it is true that as you grow old,you do become wiser and clear and smart in terms of life,which includes money and economy.

Here are a few points for myself,as I start a new life as a wife soon and also to who ever reads it no matter what age you are at.Life becomes simple to live.Agree that money plays an important part in all our lives.It is not just a necessity,but a major need.This is what I intend to do over the next 2 years.



1.Kill the debt - no matter how much you want to save,it will all go nowhere if you have a debt.So first calculate who much you owe or how much you spend on your debts.We all love that big fat bag or the i love the sofa set in home town.However i am going to wait till i clear my debts to buy any new furniture in the house or even buy a new perfume.If your debt is for a bank loan(home,car,personal) and it is for 1 or 2 years,please forgo the dream sofa.There will be better sofas in market soon and you will love them more than the present one.

Mantra - I will not buy anything that I not necessary till I clear all my debts.

2.Save at least 1000 per month - You have a Bank account where the salary goes right?Now take 1000 out on the 2nd of every month.Put in in another bank,like a recurring deposit.That way in a year you will have enough money.

This is how it works - if you deposit Rs.1000 at the rate of 7% interest for 24 months,you will get back an amount of Rs.25,681.So you have invested.

I believe that recurring is a way for you to just close your eyes and let the bank take the money.At the end of 2 years you will have some saving and you can buy yourself what ever you want or put it bank in the bank.

Mantra - I will save Rs.1000 per month for the next 2 years or more if I can(even if it less then 1000,save,save, save)

3.Cut the Card - If you know how to use a CC then use it otherwise just cut it,Why do you want to pay someone else for the things that you have purchased.(Listen to yourself laugh now).But,trust me and just cut the card.Or make sure you never swipe for more than Rs.1000 per month and make sure you pay that back at the beginning of the month.

Mantra - I will not use the card.period.

4.Expense Sheet - As a kid I used to watch my mothers friend write down every expense at the end of the day.I thought she was a miser,It is just recently, that I realised ,she is in a much better position that anyone and never been a miser.She was the first to buy me the best gifts and chocolates and also fancy her every whim and need.So start a budget sheet and write down what you spend every day.DO IT NOW.

5.It is very easy to read all this and say "YAY I Am GOING TO SAVE".However,make sure you do it at least for 6 months.See if it worked for you.Money is not everything.but when did it hurt to save for a rainy day or even to give yourself that gift or to see a smile when you take you family out for a vacation.please save every month and trust me you will be at peace.

Much love from the "To BE Wife and HOMEMAKER/BAKER/WRITER/CREATIVE GENIUS" :P

One Family to Another

I am sitting in our hall writing this blog post and V is playing what he calls soothing Music!(Progressive house).That too him is smoothing and living with him for 6 months i am kinda getting used to the idea of listening to this.

We share the space with a newly bought Lamp(red color),a couch and a diwan.I love the feeling of home.When I used to visit my friends house over weekends( this was long before I met V),I was tempted to ask her to find me a guy who was opposite to me and lived with me and my ranting.She could not find me a guy,However she did find me a room in her house that was called mine.

The reason for this blog is vary personal,I grew up in a neighborhood,which is crowded with my joint family.not that I mind it.However,sometimes when all you want is to just stare at space and just listen to classic rock. That in my case was very hard.If i was singing aloud my pinni or atha would walk in and ask me if i was loosing it.See for them sitting alone was never done.Even when i am in the loo,i get asked random things like "D,where is that yellow plate or that green dabba filled with bindis".

So I yearned for that personal or private space all my life.Then I moved to other city and i loved the initial days of no one to bother me around.sitting Lazy on a Sunday afternoon,sipping beer and listening to music and reading a book. I did enjoy the phase of no one asking me what I was doing or what I was thinking.However i did miss the chitter chatter of my pinnis,random advice by my mamaya's and also my sweet ammama's pulihora.So I got back o a city close by and started travelling home on weekends.

Now that I am back here for good,I am also going to be a part of another Family soon.i am getting Married in 15 days from today.i will miss the Tanikella and Chilukuri clan and their nuisances.However the god part is that Chandramouli clan is much louder and mixing them my clan is going to be a Party for Life and yes a few adjustment here and there never bothered anyone.

Freedom,It is a sweet and sour recipe for life!

*photo courtesy - google

When the time is right and the right place is chosen,I somehow end up in another place and at the wrong time.I wondered if it could be a case of absent mind or even a case of time travel.Then it hit me, I never want to be in the right time at the right place.I want to be at any place i want at any time of the day or night.

That is how it has been for a few years now,millions of opportunities came into the door.they knocked and said "deepthi,it is time for you to join us and be happy and successful".I said "yes,yes i am eager to please you".did manage to please them for a bit,then thought "what the f**k I am i doing here",ran for life.Happy that I ran away from the bonds of "I want your ideas,however I want them to be matched with mine".

In the office when i used to work in corporate land,projects were taken and then my manager would walk up to me and say "here is the project,these are the rules,these are the statistic"."what you have to do is work as free as you can,however do not cross the line". err,sorry,then what does "free" mean?.Is it not something that you can do on your own without rules and regulations?.


Then I ventured into films,my first film was great.The director went through the same emotions as I did and said "you guys,listen to me,do whatever yo feel like,want to change the script do it".but,make sure we all agree and have fun.It worked,the team was constantly motivated,new ideas were absorbed and if they were not then no problem,cause other ideas were as fresh as mine.

My second film was lie working in a slave driven rut.No one questioned the authority or the first AD.She was there to do whatever she felt and we all knew that she was messing up.However,we did try and make our point,but those were never taken to the director and I realised that I was the only one who was having a problem with this attitude.The rest seem to go with the flow.that is when i realised that it is dam tough to find like minded people to work with.

That is when I wrote a play,directed it and voila,everything fell in place.From the actors to the sponsors to the stage.See,my theory worked,like minded bring in a great rapport and you never feel like you working alone.

Then I said yes to another movie,now here me and the person who the idea belonged to got along like house on fire.At the end,however he had to get his people who started to add their 2 cents to the story and messed it up.I knew that the director was in favor to the friend and could not mess it up for them.So,I slowly moved aside and hope they understood and let the friend take the credit.

I know that it is tough and a torrid job to do what you want.But,it makes you happy and content and that smile that you smile for yourself is just amazing.I want to be that person.you might want to call me selfish,self absorbed and all that jazz.I am happy that i am myself and I know that those people like me are somewhere around to make a movie that breaks all barriers and frontiers and makes you laugh till your tummy tickles.

The Case Study of Ex's

Out of all the relationships that I have been,there was, were three guys with no ex - girlfriend and mind you one was my first and the other was my second and the other was hmm my fourth.So, then I started dating guys who were from my league,the ones who had ex girlfriends.

So there are many times that those ex's pissed me off,but the weird part and the best was one turned out to be a darling and i am best friends with her and the present GF of one of y ex's is a person i know as in an acquaintance and I respect her and the fact that we talk. Confusing it is to me too.

Here I am today engaged to my darling and ready to walk the path of marriage.The question till recent in debate was whether it is good for you to be friends with your ex's? Well here is what it is....

1.ex's were once close to you and they know much more about the past you than the present you.

2. they might have screwed up the past,everyone does. If he is your EX than you must have screwed it up a little to. To be his ex.

3.it is uneasy for the ex and the present to meet. However, you have a good chance of laughing over good times.

4. When the ex is in a relationship,please be happy and let that person know that you are happy for him.

5. I learnt how to write scripts from one and it is the a great feeling,one introduced me to FLOYD!,one got me into six sigma and the other thought me to laugh at life and chill.

6.When your husband,boyfriend is pissed off with the ex,it is for you to tell him to forget it and move on.casue mistakes happen and they suck. but, hey, be a man and suck it up or scream.At the end of the day leave the grudge and eat a fudge :P

7. My point simple, If it was not for the ex,you would not have met the present and look what an amazing thing that is.

8.ex's can turn out to best buddies and they hear you and you hear them.

9. when you look at them with thier present partners, you know what crap they are in for and you can feel happy that you left that all or reverse.

10. Let us accept the fact that what was not meant to be was not meant to be.

11. If the ex is a bastard or a bitch.Hey you in a better place thanks to that B&B

12. Everyone is entitled to rant out and this is the best way I could :)

LIVE AND LET LIVE

How freaking insensitive can people get.
A Minor girl was raped, this was at her tuition.
Minor kids blood is being sold in black market.
A housemaid was raped by an actor and he quotes" lust is bigger than an actor",
A girls hand is dipped in hot oil,the reason " I wanted to test if she was telling the truth,if she was, her hand would not have burned".that is what the accused said.Oh by the way he is on the run.

I am sure we all know that this is half a percent of what is happening around the world today.Is it sheer disgust to belong to human race anymore?. I thought we are people who feel and all that jazz.

I cannot seem to push this thought away for a while now. No matter what I do,these senseless,ruthless, idiotic,brutes are coming back to my mind. I wish we had to power to burn them by pouring tiny drops of acid and leave them till they suffer and scream. i would love to scream and tell them then, that this is how exactly the little ones must have felt.

Please for Kids sake,leave them alone. Let them grow up and let them enjoy the life they have. Who the fuck gave you the right to interfere in their life? Do you even know that they lived happily before without your bloody presence. The maid had no clue that you were around watching her every move. the little one at the tuitions had no idea that you were lusting for her body than her mind full of life ahead. that baby did not know that the prick was not an injection but a uncouth vampire,who wants to draw every tiny drop f blood.

Stay away from kids,stay away from humans period.In fact stay away from animals,plants all living things. Do not bother us anymore, we care and we do not care for fools like you. you are a disease which is spreading rampant,please people take a vaccination and try not to let these demons enter you soul.

Please spread the word.Take the Vaccination called HUMANITY. KILL THE HATE,SPREAD THE LOVE,RESPECT and above all FREEDOM to live and let live.

speak..

being within the walls of self,looking at the one within,
you thought you forget the past and moved on to the present.

you met yourself at the end and questioned again and again,
the answers were always the ones that you wanted to hear.

today you met the "you" that came to visit from the past,
it said "tell me my friend,does it feel good to see me"?

you smiled and you walked away,never looking back,
it was the point you missed,you missed completing yourself by answering the question.

you still linger on to those moments and think that no one can say,no one can hear the past?

say it out my soul,tell him,shout out, for it feels like a baby with no past and future that she holds for herself.

mind games

I can hear the voices in my head,
are they trying to tell me something?

i can see figures float around,
are they are a part of my mind?

i can see shadows,more than one,
are they following me?

i can feel the pain inside,
are they not showing themselves to you?

i can feel the emptiness in me,
are they just illusion created by me?

i need to know the answers,
or are these question are part of the game?